Audrey suggested that I can see it as a good thing that a couple of major bad things have happened to me recently... as opposed to having each of them happen separately with some time inbetween, thereby ruining more days because the yuk would be drawn out.

Julia asked me if the speed at which I try to solve problems and resolve unresolved issues, what can be seen as something akin to impatience, could contribute to my general inability to have a relationship.

Both insightful good points. Things that I should pay attention to. I still feel like crap.